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bitch
Definition from Wiktionary, a free dictionary

Singular
bitch

Plural
bitches

bitch (plural bitches)

1. (usually humorous or archaic) A female dog or other canine. In particular one who has recently had puppies.

My bitch just had puppies: they’re so cute!

2. (vulgar, derogatory) A female who is malicious, spiteful, unbearable, intrusive, or obnoxious.

Ann gossiped about me and mocked my work; sometimes she can be a real bitch!

* 1913, D. H. Lawrence, Sons and Lovers, I. iv. 60:

‘Look at the children, you nasty little bitch!’ he sneered.

3. (vulgar, derogatory) By extension, a man with any of these qualities, especially a gay man (suggesting his behavior is womanly) or a man who is dishonorable, cowardly, spineless, whiny, or otherwise behaves in a manner unbecoming a man.
* Glenn Close in the movie The Jagged Edge:

You called me a bitch, didn’t you?

4. (humorous, slang, used with a possessive pronoun, usually between women, between gay men and between women and gay men) Friend.

What’s up, my bitch?
How my bitches been doin’?

5. An angry retort directed to a close buddy.

Will you stop this, my bitch??

6. A person in an unfavorable, undesirable position.

When we pile into the car, I tend to be a bitch, stuck in the middle of the back seats.

7. A person who is made to adopt a submissive role in a relationship.

Do you have to ask your girl before you do everything? You must be the bitch in the relationship.

* 1999 September 23, Chris Sheridan, “This House Is Freakin’ Sweet”, “Peter, Peter, Caviar Eater”, Family Guy, season 2, episode 1, Fox Broadcasting Company

Now that you’re stinking rich, we’d gladly be your bitch.

8. (slang) A complaint.
9. (slang, usually only used in the singular) A difficult or confounding problem.

Question 5 was a real bitch, don’t you think?
That’s a bitch of a question. (Or, a bitch of a problem, etc.)

10. (slang) A queen (the playing card)

[edit] Usage notes

* The noun bitch is sometimes diffused by intentional colloquial overuse or misuse. In print, the noun referring to a person is demeaning and sometimes implies that the person being insulted is subservient.
* In professional circles, the noun bitch is sometimes used to refer to intelligent and ambitious women with a high level of sex-appeal who use those qualities to achieve their goals.
* In the sense of an aggressive woman, this term is generally derogatory when used by men (and often when used by women), but, it is also used by some women to refer to themselves positively in a form of reclamation. It is important to note that many people do not believe that “bitch” is able to be reclaimed, because of its continued pejorative usage. Thus, the term is both potentially liberatory while also being controversial.

[edit] Synonyms

* (female dog, etc): female (when the species is specified or implied)
* (malicious, etc, woman): cow
* (malicious, etc, man): bastard
* (jocular slang, one’s friend):
* (person in an unfavorable, undesirable position):
* (person in a relationship who is made to adopt a submissive role): doormat
* (a complaint): gripe, grumble, kvetch, moan, whinge
* (difficult or confounding problem): toughie, stinker, pain in the ass
* (to talk about):

[edit] Derived terms

* bitch fight
* bitching
* bitch slap
* bitch switch
* bitchy
* bull-bitch
* flip a bitch
* life’s a bitch
* payback is a bitch, payback’s a bitch
* son of a bitch, sonofabitch

[edit] Translations
[show ▼]female canine

* Aramaic:

Syriac: ܟܠܒܬܐ (kalbtā’) f.
Hebrew: כלבתא (kalbtā’) f.

* Armenian: քած hy(hy) (qats)
* Bosnian: kuja bs(bs) f.
* Breton: kiez br(br) f.
* Bulgarian: кучка bg(bg) (kučka) f.
* Central Atlas Tamazight: ⵜⴰⵢⴷⵉⵜ (taydit) f.
* Chinese: 母狗 (mǔgǒu)
* Czech: fena cs(cs) f.
* Danish: tæve da(da) c. (female dog)
* Dutch: teef nl(nl) f.
* Esperanto: hundino eo(eo) (dog), lupino eo(eo) (wolf), vulpino eo(eo) (fox)
* Ewe: avunɔ f.
* Finnish: narttu fi(fi)
* French: chienne fr(fr) f. (dog), louve fr(fr) f. (wolf), renarde fr(fr) f. (fox) f.
* German: Hündin de(de) f., Wölfin de(de) f., Füchsin de(de) f., Kojotin de(de) f., Schakalin de(de) f.
* Greek: σκύλα el(el) (skila) f.
* Hebrew: כלבה he(he) (kalba) f.
* Hindi: कुत्तियाँ hi(hi) f.
* Hungarian: szuka hu(hu), nőstény hu(hu)
* Interlingua: can ia(ia) f.
* Italian: cagna it(it) f.
* Japanese: 雌犬 (めすいぬ, mesuinu), いけいけ ja(ja) (ikeike)

* Korean: 암캐 (amkae)
* Latvian: kuce lv(lv) f.
* Lithuanian: kalė lt(lt) f.
* Macedonian: кучка mk(mk) (kúčka) f.
* Malayalam: കൂത്തിപ്പട്ടി (kūθθippaʈʈi)
* Maltese: kelba mt(mt) f.
* Norwegian: tispe no(no) f.
* Novial: hunda
* Occitan: canha oc(oc) f.
* Polish: suka pl(pl) f.
* Portuguese: cadela pt(pt) f., cachorra pt(pt) f.
* Romanian: căţea ro(ro) f., căţele ro(ro) f. pl.
* Russian: сука ru(ru) (súka) f.
* Scottish Gaelic: cù boireann m.
* Serbian: psica sr(sr) f., kučka sr(sr) f., suka sr(sr) f., kuja sr(sr) f.
* Slovak: suka sk(sk) f.
* Slovene: psica sl(sl) f.
* Spanish: perra es(es) f.
* Swedish: tik sv(sv) c., hynda sv(sv)
* Taos: kwíanena
* Telugu: ఆడకుక్క (aaDakukka)
* Ugaritic: klbt f.
* Volapük: jidog vo(vo), jilup vo(vo), jirenar vo(vo)
* Welsh: gast cy(cy)

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masc. fem. neuter common gender plural
Transliteration: (e.g. ázbuka for азбука)

Page name: (e.g. amo for amō)

Qualifier: (e.g. literally, formally, slang)

Script template: (e.g. Cyrl for Cyrillic, Latn for Latin)

[show ▼]spiteful woman

* Armenian: քած hy(hy) (qats)
* Bosnian: kučka bs(bs) f.
* Breton: louskenn br(br) f., liboudenn br(br) f.
* Bulgarian: кучка bg(bg) (kučka) f., курва bg(bg) (kurva) f., развратница (razvratnica) f.
* Chinese: trad. 賤人, simpl. 贱人 (pinyin: jiànrén); 婊子 (biǎozi); trad. 娼婦, simpl. 娼妇 (pinyin: chāngfù)
* Czech: kurva cs(cs) f.
* Danish: kælling da(da)
* Dutch: slet nl(nl) f., bitch nl(nl) f.
* Esperanto: aĉulino eo(eo), fiulino eo(eo)
* Finnish: narttu fi(fi)
* French: chienne fr(fr) f., chipie fr(fr) f., garce fr(fr) f., salope fr(fr) f., rosse fr(fr) f., catin fr(fr) f.
* German: Zicke de(de) f.
* Greek: σκύλα el(el) (skíla) f.
* Hebrew: כלבה he(he) (kalba) f.
* Hungarian: kurva hu(hu), luvnya hu(hu), lotyó hu(hu), ribanc hu(hu), ribi hu(hu), ringyó hu(hu), szajha hu(hu)
* Interlingua: puta, putana f.
* Italian: stronza it(it) f., troia it(it) f.

* Japanese: すべた (subeta), じゃじゃ馬 ja(ja) (jajauma), 阿婆擦れ ja(ja) (abazure) (various spellings), 尼 ja(ja) (ama) (various spellings)
* Latvian: kuce lv(lv) f.
* Lithuanian: kalė lt(lt) f.
* Macedonian: кучка mk(mk) (kúčka) f.
* Maltese: qaħba mt(mt) f.
* Norwegian: tispe no(no) f.
* Occitan: chispa oc(oc) f., solharda oc(oc) f.
* Polish: suka pl(pl) f., dziwka pl(pl) f., kurwa pl(pl) f.
* Portuguese: puta pt(pt) f., vagabunda pt(pt) f.
* Romanian: căţea ro(ro) f.
* Russian: сука ru(ru) (súka) f., стерва ru(ru) (stérva) f., мегера ru(ru) (megéra) f.
* Scottish Gaelic: galla f., strìopach f., nighean na galla f.
* Slovak: suka sk(sk) f., kurva sk(sk) f.
* Spanish: puta es(es) f., ramera es(es) f., arpía es(es) f., zorra es(es) f., perra es(es) f.
* Swedish: slyna sv(sv) c., subba sv(sv) c.

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masc. fem. neuter common gender plural
Transliteration: (e.g. ázbuka for азбука)

Page name: (e.g. amo for amō)

Qualifier: (e.g. literally, formally, slang)

Script template: (e.g. Cyrl for Cyrillic, Latn for Latin)

[show ▼]spiteful man, especially a gay man

* Dutch: poot nl(nl) m.

* Russian: жопочник ru(ru) (žópočnik) m.
* Spanish: puto es(es) m.

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masc. fem. neuter common gender plural
Transliteration: (e.g. ázbuka for азбука)

Page name: (e.g. amo for amō)

Qualifier: (e.g. literally, formally, slang)

Script template: (e.g. Cyrl for Cyrillic, Latn for Latin)

[show ▼]jocular slang: one’s friend

* Russian: шурак ru(ru) (šurák) m., кореш ru(ru) (kóreš) m.

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masc. fem. neuter common gender plural
Transliteration: (e.g. ázbuka for азбука)

Page name: (e.g. amo for amō)

Qualifier: (e.g. literally, formally, slang)

Script template: (e.g. Cyrl for Cyrillic, Latn for Latin)

[show ▼]person in an unfavorable, undesirable position

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masc. fem. neuter common gender plural
Transliteration: (e.g. ázbuka for азбука)

Page name: (e.g. amo for amō)

Qualifier: (e.g. literally, formally, slang)

Script template: (e.g. Cyrl for Cyrillic, Latn for Latin)

[show ▼]person in relationship who is made to adopt a submissive role

* Dutch: bitch m. & f.

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masc. fem. neuter common gender plural
Transliteration: (e.g. ázbuka for азбука)

Page name: (e.g. amo for amō)

Qualifier: (e.g. literally, formally, slang)

Script template: (e.g. Cyrl for Cyrillic, Latn for Latin)

[show ▼]a complaint

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masc. fem. neuter common gender plural
Transliteration: (e.g. ázbuka for азбука)

Page name: (e.g. amo for amō)

Qualifier: (e.g. literally, formally, slang)

Script template: (e.g. Cyrl for Cyrillic, Latn for Latin)

[show ▼]difficult or confounding problem

* French: casse-tête fr(fr) m.

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masc. fem. neuter common gender plural
Transliteration: (e.g. ázbuka for азбука)

Page name: (e.g. amo for amō)

Qualifier: (e.g. literally, formally, slang)

Script template: (e.g. Cyrl for Cyrillic, Latn for Latin)

[edit] References

* Weisenberg, Michael (2000) The Official Dictionary of Poker. MGI/Mike Caro University. ISBN 978-1880069523

[edit] Verb

Infinitive
to bitch

Third person singular
bitches

Simple past
bitched

Past participle
bitched

Present participle
bitching

to bitch (third-person singular simple present bitches, present participle bitching, simple past and past participle bitched)

1. (transitive, with “about”) To make derogatory comments (about a person).

Look, I saw you bitching about me yesterday, I know how you feel: why can’t you say it to my face?

2. (transitive, with “about”) To criticize (something) spitefully, often for the sake of complaining rather than in order to have the problem corrected.

All you ever do is bitch about the food I cook for you!

[edit] Synonyms

* (make derogatory comments (about someone)): badmouth, slag off (UK), snipe at
* (complain spitefully (about something)): gripe about/at, grumble about/at, kvetch about/at, moan about/at, piss and moan about/at, sniff at, whine about/at, whinge about/at
* See also Wikisaurus:complain

sub·mis·sive (sb-msv)
adj.
Inclined or willing to submit.
sub·missive·ly adv.
sub·missive·ness n.

The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.
submissive
Adjective
showing quiet obedience
submissively adv
submissiveness n

Collins Essential English Dictionary 2nd Edition 2006 © HarperCollins Publishers 2004, 2006
ThesaurusLegend: Synonyms Related Words Antonyms
Adj. 1. submissive – inclined or willing to submit to orders or wishes of others or showing such inclination; “submissive servants”; “a submissive reply”; “replacing troublemakers with more submissive people”
unassertive – inclined to timidity or lack of self-confidence; “a shy unassertive person”
obedient – dutifully complying with the commands or instructions of those in authority; “an obedient soldier”; “obedient children”; “a little man obedient to his wife”; “the obedient colonies…are heavily taxed; the refractory remain unburdened”- Edmund Burke
humble – marked by meekness or modesty; not arrogant or prideful; “a humble apology”; “essentially humble…and self-effacing, he achieved the highest formal honors and distinctions”- B.K.Malinowski
subordinate – subject or submissive to authority or the control of another; “a subordinate kingdom”
domineering – tending to domineer
2. submissive – abjectly submissive; characteristic of a slave or servant; “slavish devotion to her job ruled her life”; “a slavish yes-man to the party bosses”- S.H.Adams; “she has become submissive and subservient”
slavish, subservient
servile – submissive or fawning in attitude or behavior; “spoke in a servile tone”; “the incurably servile housekeeper”; “servile tasks such as floor scrubbing and barn work”
Based on WordNet 3.0, Farlex clipart collection. © 2003-2008 Princeton University, Farlex Inc.
submissive
adjective meek, passive, obedient, compliant, patient, resigned, yielding, accommodating, humble, subdued, lowly, abject, amenable, docile, dutiful, ingratiating, malleable, deferential, pliant, obsequious, uncomplaining, tractable, acquiescent, biddable, unresisting, bootlicking (informal) obeisant << OPPOSITE obstinate

Slash
From Fan History Wiki
Terminology

Below is a partial list of slash specific terminology.

* Bandslash stands for slash stories and fandoms that focus on male musical groups instead of media like TV, books or movies.
o Popslash is the subset of Bandslash for boy bands.
* BL is the abbreviation for boys’ love.
* BSO can stand for Beautiful Sex Object, Batterable Slash Object, or Battered Slashable Object. The use of all three forms predates 1999.
* Genderfuck or genderswitch are relatively recent terms that describe stories in which one (or sometimes both) male characters are transformed into women, usually by some mysterious magic. Genderfuck sometimes includes stories where male characters cross dress, especially if they have to pass as women as opposed to drag queens or visible transvestites. In almost all cases, the characters involved identify as male and do not willingly crossdress or change sex.
* Mpreg stands for male-pregnency. These stories feature a male character somehow becoming pregnant (magically, through mutation or science, alien intervention or not addressed by the author at all), usually via receptive anal sex with his male partner. It allows the authors to portray their male/male pairs having a family of their own, with a child who shares both parents’ genetics. In almost all cases, the details of how the pregnancy occurs, proceeds, or ends is not described in detail and generally, the pregnant man behaves like a very stereotypical pregnant woman complete with mood swings, food cravings, swollen feet an so on. Despite not being well regarded, mpreg remains a fairly popular sub-genre of slash.
* M/m fic, boyslash, yaoi are variations of slash.
* F/f, saffic, girlslash, yuri are variations of femslash.
* Non-con stands for sexual relations where one participant is not fully willing or consenting but generally does not include a violent physical attack. Drugs, mind-control, blackmail, magic love potions and sex with an unconscious person are all examples of non-con. The use of violent physical power is still called rape.
* Uke a Japanese term describing the bottom, or receptive partner, in a male/male sexual relationship. It also implies a feminine or submissive man.
* Seme a Japanese term describing the top or penetrative partner in a male/male sexual relationship. It often implies a hyper-masculine behavior.
* Surprise!buttsex is a mocking term used to describe poorly written slash where one partner has anal sex with their partner without any sort of preparation like lubricant, foreplay or even letting them know before dropping their pants and plunging in.
* Switch refers to someone who has no strict preference as to whether they are top or bottom during sexual intercourse.
* Top and bottom terms that come from the real world gay community and describe the penetrative and receptive partners in sex. In fanfic it also implies dominant/hyper masculine behavior or submissive/feminine behavior.
* “Wngwjleo” stands for “We’re Not Gay, We Just Love Each Other”. This is a type of slash story where the main characters remain “entirely heterosexual”, with the exception of their one true love.

Historical Definitions

See Historical definitions of slash.
Early Slash

During the early 1980s, if a reader wanted to purchase slash contained in a fanzine, they would frequently have to send the fanzine publisher a copy of their drivers license in order to verify their age. [1]

In 1981, same gender pairings were being discussed, as was how people preferred to view the Kirk-Spock-Bones relationship. Verba cited a survey which said most people preferred to see that relationship as a friendship.

Early slash was not about gay. Slash has not been about GLBT until the Xena fandom when the two met for the first time. There were no females really to pair the guys with and write a good story. The female characters were limited and not as multidimensional. The only obvious people to pair them with were male characters. Homosexuality was never expressly talked about. Homosexuality was still a bit of a titilation/retaliation thing in fandom. Slash was about creating logical pairings and subtext. Fandom would and did use threats of outing during the 1970s and 1980s as a way of getting fan compliance. Slash was not about queerness or homosexuality just like a lot of slash, for the most part, now isn’t. Fan fiction, unlike GLBT lit, seems to have no concept of orientation or has the concept that sexuality is so fluid as to not be worth mentioning.

The term, slash, was used for the first time in the fanzine Night Tonight, Spock which was published in 1985. (Langley)

It wasn’t until 1985 that the word slash was first used in the fan fiction community. (Langley, Boyd, Curtin) According to Langley in a phone interview in the summer of 2005, this date is subject to some leeway as the date was ascertained by herself and Mary Ellen Curtin going through fanzines in their extensive, personal collections and trying to find the earliest usage. Langley’s date of 1985 is helped as she was a long time participant in fandom and can draw upon her own fannish experiences to put a time frame on the date. When looking through Usenet records from that period of the 1980s, the fact that the word might not have been used till that time is logical. The Kirk/Spock convention of using the slash to denote a romantic pairing was still not standardized until the late 1980s, early 1990s. The word is not used in Star Trek Lives! but has picked up enough usage to be used by Henry Jenkins in 1992. Verba’s discussion in her book, Boldly Writing, uses the word slash in the index but as a see K/S. K&S is used by the Verba to denote Kirk/Spock friendship stories.

And there was a lot of discussion during the 1990s if Queer as Folk was slash because it featured canonically homosexual characters. Most canon, I think especially with the older stuff, just assumes heterosexual norms. And fan fiction was not necessarily about making social statements. So much as it was about repurposing the “texts” for their fans own needs. Much of that involved personal enjoyment, etc. IF there was a larger social agenda of normalizing homosexuality in the English speaking culture, I don’t think it would have caught on. Especially as GLBT rights are NOT something that a lot of the slash community is on the band wagon with. The first big pro GLBT movement in the fannish context that I heard of wasn’t until Xena and femslash.

Because a lot of slash is about turning men into objects of lust and desire though obviously exceptions. With the men in the Star Trek fandom, a lot of them were married to women in the Star Trek fandom. Or married women. The cliche about heterosexual married women writing slash came from that early period.

annlarimer on LiveJournal said the following at http://telesilla.livejournal.com/415237.html?thread=2553605#t2553605

“There was an idea floating around for a while in hte 80s/90s that if a publisher of a slash zine couldn’t get a printer to take the thing (it happened — and at least one publisher was rumoured to have had her originals ‘confiscated’ by an offended print shop), that it would be a great idea to look for a gay-run print shop and have the work done there.”

Reactions to early slash

What was the initial perception of slash in early fan fiction communities? Answer: In an academic paper, an author cites Henry Jenkins who says:

Jenkins (1992) explains, “The colorful term, ‘slash,’ refers to the convention of employing a stroke or ‘slash’ to signify a same-sex relationship between two characters (Kirk/Spock or K/S) and specifies a genre of fan stories positing homoerotic affairs between series protagonists” (186). This genre emerged in the early 1970s in the Star Trek fan community, and was initially met with significant resistance. Most academic study of slash fan fiction has concluded that it generally involves loving relationships between otherwise-heterosexual men, and is a way for women to evade or reconstruct gender to their liking. However, fan reaction to academic theorizing about slash has been vocal and divergent in opinion; this will be explored in more detail below. All of these categories of fan fiction are visible as antecedents to the categories in X-Files fan fiction.

Slash History Timeline
1970s

* There are stories from this period of printers destroying homoerotic content that was printed in fanzines. [2]

1974

* “A Fragment Out Of Time” is the first known Star Trek slash to be published in fanzine. The author was Diane Marchant. The vignette was published in Grup #3. The language was highly coded and didn’t refer to Spock and Kirk by name but rather referred to them as he and him.(Curtin, ksboyd@sfu.ca, Verba )

1975

* In Halkan Council, Diane Marchant published an essay about Star Trek Kirk/Spock slash. The first public discussion of this essay occurred in the Star Trek letterzine, Grup #4 as a reaction to the essay written by Diane Marchant. (ksboyd@sfu.ca, Langley )
* Star Trek Lives!, edited and written by Jacqueline Lichtenberg, Sondra Marshak and Joan Winston, was published. This book contained a chapter at the end of the book which examines Star Trek fan fiction and the Kirk/Spock relationship in fan fiction. This book is important because that last chapter helped formed a lot of the modern thought on slash fan fiction communities. Scholars still cite this source today.

1976

* According to the National Library of Australia, the Star Trek Action Committee was formed as a Star Trek Club. This Star Trek Club held its first meeting in April. Members included Susan Clarke, Julie Townsend and Edwina Harvey. This fanclub would publish the Star Trek adult fanzine, containing both het and slash, Beyond Antares. [3]
* In June, “Alternative: Epilog to Orion” is written by G. Downes and published in a fanzine. It was the second piece of Kirk/Spock slash to appear.
* Leslie Fish’s Shelter was one of the first fully-developed K/S short stories that is published. It was published in Warped Space 20. [4]

1977

* According to Katherine Langley, one of the earliest pieces of femslash to appear in a fanzine was “Kismet,” by Dani Morin. This story appeared in Obsc’Zine #2, published in August of that year. This story’s plot included Uhura discussing with Chapel the nature of Captain Kirk and Spock’s relationship. This is a way for Chapel to cover her own feelings for Uhura. The appearance of this story proceeded the publication and stir over the Kirk/Spock material by three years; Diane Marchant’s Kirk/Spock “A Fragment Out of Time” was published in Grup 3 in September of 1974.

1977 to 1983

* Led Zeppelin fan fiction begins to circulate in fanzines. The early zines used the names Tris and Alex instead of Jimmy Page and Robert Plant. (Sidewinder: [5])

1978

* Between January and March, Thrust was the first Star Trek fanzine published to contain only Kirk/Spock slash in the early part of this year.

1980s
1980

* The Starsky and Hutch community in England veered into the land of slash. This happened when “Forever Autumn” was published in March. “Forever Autumn” was the first piece of slash to be written in this community. According to Langley and ksboyd@sfu.ca, this caused a disruption in the community as members worried about the reaction of the actors, networks and producers to this material. They feared that those parties would attain these materials and begin a crackdown to prevent the proliferation of this material.

1980 to 1984

* 1981 The first MediaWest is held over Memorial Day in Lansing, Michigan. A fan run, media based convention, MediaWest gradually began allowing more and more slash content (panels, programming, fanzines and video show). However, as a ‘family friendly’ convention, slash has been segregated or reserved to later hours (ex. the slash video show is held after 10pm). http://www.mediawestcon.org/
* The Professionals community starts up and starts up as a primarily slash based community.
* Zebracon a Slash convention is held in Chicago, Illinois. It was initially focused on Starsky and Hutch fandom (Zebra 3 was their car’s call sign). It then branched out to embrace The Professionals and other cop/spy/sf shows. The convention was held annually and then switched to a 2 yr cycle. [6]

1981

* Slash was being discussed in the Star Trek fan fiction community, as was to how people preferred to view the Kirk-Spock-Bones relationship. Verba cited a survey which said most people preferred to see that relationship as a friendship.
* The procedure, in the United States, around 1981, if you wanted to get an adult content or slash fanzine generally involved sending the fanzine publisher a copy of your drivers license. [7] According to accioslash, “A signed statement reading, “Honest guys, I’m really 18″ didn’t cut it as an age statement.” [8]

1984

* Archives from net.startrek during that period show that discussion of slash, referenced as K&S instead of the current convention of K/S to refer to the Kirk/Spock relationship, was happening on the group, along with advertisements for various Star Trek fanzines.

1985

* The term, slash, is used for the first time in the fanzine “Night Tonight, Spock.”
* “Changing” by Jane Carnall was published. This was a Blake’s 7 Jenna/Original Female Character story, published in the fanzine Touched #4 in the United Kingdom.
* By this time, there was f/f in the Doctor Who fan fiction community. The material that floated around primarily featured an original female doctor.

1988

* In the United Kingdom, “Customs” by Barbara Tennison was published in The Unique Touch 2. It featured the Jenna/Cally pairing.

1988 to 1990

* According to Ann Teitelbaum in a post cross posted to rec.arts.startrek.current, rec.arts.startrek.misc, rec.arts.startrek.fandom, alt.sex.fetish.startrek, alt.startrek.creative on November 26, 1995,

Then again, I must agree with the idea that there’s only so much you can
say, even in alternate universes, time travel, etc. The passion just
ain’t in the creative community any more, I guess.
Kinda like the way Professionals slash fandom took off and generated
gobs of fanfic, but has slowed quite a bit. I think readers (as well as
writers, who I can’t speak for) do get bored after 8 – 10 years of the
same single fandom….

* In May, 1990 [9] on rec.arts.sf-creative in May 1990 there was a Call For Discussion regarding whether or not slash fiction should be allowed or banned on the grounds that it could be considered obscene or offensive.

1990′s

* Duran Duran slash and het fic circulated in fanzines like UMF, the Zine for the Creative Duranie. UMF editors noted that Duran Duran were aware of the fan fiction. Sidewinder notes that the RPF people at the time did not seem to come from the same community as “traditional fan fiction fans” were coming from. (Sidewinder: [10])
* 1990 Escapade – a fan run media based slash convention was first held near Santa Barbara, CA, bringing together slash fans face to face (some for the first time). Most attendees were women and the first fandoms focused on the Professionals, Blake’s 7, Star Trek and Starsky & Hutch. As of 2007, the convention has been held every year and has grown to encompass a wide range of attendees (men and women) and many fandoms. http://www.escapadecon.net/

1991

* October 26, 1991, Stephen Pearl (Starbuck) posts a draft of his “Introduction to Anime APAs” to rec.arts.anime [11]. Including referneces to “SLASH:The APA”

SLASH: THE APA
OE: BAST
Addr: [xxxxxxxxx]
[xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx]
Frequency: semi-annual
MINAC:
Interest: Slash fiction (mainly anime and manga, but not really
restricted to that). “Slash” refers to stories or manga in which the
sexual preferences of the characters are altered — the term
originated in Star Trek fandom with Kirk/Spock (say
“Kirk-slash-Spock”) stories. This apa is NOT for everyone — it
contains somewhat graphic descriptions and illos of homosexual
activities.

1992

* In March, the Nifty Archive came on-line. It is well known in fan fiction fandoms as a repository of boy band and celebrity erotica.
* On the [soc.motss newsgroup] in December a discussion on “Porno for women vs. Women’s porno” provides information on where and how group members can find slash zines, and on the introduction of academic interest in slash and fan fiction exemplified by Henry Jenkins’s recently published “Textual Poachers” book.

1993

* 1993 First slash mailing list created, run from a private list-serv on the East Coast. It was called “Virgule” (another name for the / symbol) and membership was limited to women. It remained active through the 1990s, until more fandom specific slash mailing lists on Egroups and YahooGroups became popular.

1994

* The Blake’s 7 fanzine, Southern seven 9, was published. Among the stories in this zine was “Cruelty Has a Human Heart” by Jane Carnell. While not explicitly f/f, there is, according to Sarah Thompson [12], a non-sisterly type f/f relationship depicted between Soolin and Dayna.
* The alt.tv.highlander and alt.tv.highlander.creative newsgroups are created, allowing broad fiction content including adult and slash.
* Announcement for Virgule Con posted to rec.arts.sf.fandom newsgroup. The convention was held in Seattle, October 7-9, 1994. Convention geared to media slash fans featuring panels, art show, charity auction, dealer’s room, music videos, more.

1995 to 2000

* The 1990s started an important phase in the fan fiction community. This was the emergence and integration of the Anime community into the Real Person Fic and media fandoms. Anime fen brought with them their own traditions and terminology, concepts like yaoi, yuri, and lemons.

1995

* Seven slash stories were posted to alt.tv.x-files.creative. [13]
* In May, the first slash story posted to the Intenet involving Mulder was “Pleasant Dreams” by Laura Cooksey. It featured Mulder and an original male character. ( Rosalita: [14])
* In October, the first Mulder/Skinner story was written. It was “Authority” by Laura Cooksey. It would set the tone for future Mulder/Skinny fan fiction. ( Rosalita: [15])
* November 17, 1995, Kellie M and Julia K posted Daybreak[16], as the third part of a trilogy crossing Star Trek: The Next Generation and Highlander, on the HLFIC-L list, warning for both NC-17 sex and homoerotic content.
* A definition of slash was posted by Aleph Press to rec.arts.startrek.current on November 30, 1995. It said:

“Slash” is specifically homosexual couples (in some fandoms where there
are openly homosexual characters, as in anime fandom, it is sometimes
used to mean stories in which characters who are *not* established
homosexuals in the source material have homosexual relationships.) I
don’t know if het couple fiction has its own specific term– it’s usually
referred to as “non-slash erotica” or something like that.

1996

* Fifty slash stories were posted to alt.tv.x-files.creative. ( Rosalita: [17])
* Between October and December, the Mulder/Krycek Romantics Association was created.
* Between October and December, the Mulder/Skinner Slash Society was created.
* On July 31, 1996, Brenda Antrim’s “Krychek” was the first piece of Mulder/Krycek slash to be published on the Internet. [18]
* Between August and October, Alternative (alt) fan fiction became standard in the Xena fandom.
* Between August and October, Dax opened her fan fiction archive Obsessions which contained alt stories and quickly becomes a favorite site of Xena fans. ( Lunacy )
* In late 1996 The Highlander Quill Club comes on line, a multi-author archive host by Eng and admitting gen, het, adult, and slash fanfiction via submission. The HLQC was noted for it’s intense graphical nature, illustrations offered by the site maintainer Eng. The archive is still online but is no longer updated. HLQC. In 1997 Eng produced the first compilation of all submissions in zine format. It was available only to site contributors (at no charge), and was some 400 pages long.

1997

* On October 10, 1997, the Pink Rabbit Consortium [19] was founded. This site was home to some of the best f/f on the Internet for a variety of fandoms including Alien, All My Children, Babylon 5, Buffy: The Vampire Slayer, ER, Law & Order, NYPD Blue, Star Trek: Voyager and Xena.
* In December, slash reached a critical mass in the X-Files fan fiction community.
* In the summer of this year, the Usenet group Rec.Sport.Skating.Ice.Figure had a large flame war. The flame war was over what was suitable topics for discussion on the group. Things that people argued over the appropriateness of discussing included the skaters’ sexual orientation, abusive parents and coaches, drinking, drugging and eating disorders.[20]
* During the latter part of the year, Miriam Heddy started her Joxer/Ares series with the story “Lessons in Battle.” z_rayne: [21]

1998 to 2003

* For a period between 1998 and 2003, it looked like Eastern and Western fan fiction cultures would merge as each seemed to borrow concepts, terminology and practices from each other. By 2004, this merging seemed to be dead. Yaoi and yuri were not being used in Western oriented fan fiction communities. Slash was not being used in Eastern oriented fan fiction communities. Each community seemed to have retreated into itself. The cross over fannishly was becoming smaller. Anime and Harry Potter fan fiction were not sharing, in similar numbers, the same fan space at larger automated archives.

1998

* Zoë Rayne was the third person to publish Joxer/Ares under her old pseudo name, Dyevka. The first two authors to write this pairing were Miriam Heddy and Black Rose. (z_rayne: [22])
* Athea was the first Joxer/Ares author with her War God series, writing the new pairing in a Hercules/Iolaus mailing list.
* By this time, Liz Griffin was penning her Janeway/Torres fan fiction. Her works would be described by others as the zenith of this romantic pairing. [23]
* Chick with a Dick: Male characters, often in slash, who are written as overly feminine while still retaining their male identity. Origins: 1998, God Awful Trek Fan Fic. This term was most often used in the context of m/m slash, where traditional gender roles were overlain on members of that pairing.
* On March 12, 1998, Sofie Werkers founded the Rareslash mailing list.
* Several fan fiction communities discussed slash. As a result, various defenses of slash articles were written and began circulation in the fannish community.
* On ASCEM, related dialogue involves the issue of if slash and het need to be rated differently.
* 350 pieces of slash were posted to alt.tv.x-files.creative. (Rosalita: [24])
* WPAdmirer wrote her Chicago series, an ER/X-Files cross over that was influential in ER slashy circles. (Cathy (huntersglenn@cox.net) on alt.tv.er.creative )
* Tom Paris raped in prison fanon developed. The idea that Tom Paris was raped in prison first came from fen who had read it in a story by Brenda Antrim. The story worked this concept in so seamlessly that other people borrowed it for their own stories or assumed it was canon and referenced it in their own works. As more people did this, the idea perpetuated and perpetuated until there became honest debate within the fandom as to whether or not this idea was actually canon.
* From October 15, 1998 till September 12, 2002, FanFiction.Net had an active policy forbidding ActorSlash while they have Musicians and other real person fic categories. [25]

1999

* “Letters over the Sea,” one of the first pieces of Lord of the Rings slash, was published to the Internet and became one of the more influential stories in the Lord of the Rings slash community, was published. It featured the Sam/Frodo pairing and was written by Gytha and Prembone. (Elke_Tanzer: [26] , [27])
* In September, Least Expected, the first Lord of the Rings slash archive, was founded. ( Elance: [28])
* In September, tolkien_slash, first Lord of the Rings slash list, was founded. ( Elance: [29])
* Man from U.N.C.L.E., We have each other 3 was published in 1999. It contained mostly slash. It won a Huggy and a Stiffie award. This is an example of one of the many slash zines being published at the time.
* The Buffy: The Vampire Slayer f/f community began to take off. Some of the early works in this community were characterized as being fluffy and romantic. [30]
* The Paradoxical F/F Archive was founded. This fan fiction archive hosted over 820 stories from a number of fandoms including Buffy: The Vampire Slayer, Sailor Moon, Star Trek, Stargate, The X-Files and Xena.
* By this time, Gina Dartt had started writing her classic Star Trek: Voyager Janeway/7 series, Just Between. [31] This series would become almost required reading for fans of that pairing. Gina Dartt would also become one of the leading members of the Bad Girls f/f community. Another classic writer of Janeway/7 material also started writing by this time. The author was Tenderware. She wrote such notable classics as “Sustenance,” “Adaptations” and “The Four Pips Club.”
* By this time, according to Judith Gran [32], there were more writers who were involved in writing different types of pairings. The same writer in the Star Trek fandom may write f/f, m/f and m/m. Judith Gran also noted that by this time, fandom was being dominated less by heterosexual women.
* On June 20, 1999, Stacy Peters opened The Infinity Complex. This would be an important archive of Star Trek: Voyager f/f slash material. Among the authors archived here were Bodicea, August, Robin Lawrie, Jane St. Clair, LZClotho, Kelly and AgainCourt.
* In March or April of this year, Te’s “Post-Grad” and “Post-Grad II” were published on-line. According to z_rayne on LiveJournal, these were most likely the first Spike/Xander ever published. [33]
* In May of this year, at Fedcon , Jeri Ryan categorically denied that Janeway and Seven would ever be involved in a relationship with each other. [34]
* On May 19, 1999, the Master and Apprentice archive was founded at http://www.sockiipress.org/ma/index.html . Currently, this archive is the largest archive of Obi-Wan/Qui-Gon on the Internet with over 2,400 stories archived. This archive was also important in that it seems to have set the trend of writing stories based on media BEFORE the media hits the public. (fishgoat)
* On August 5, 1999, the SapphicSlayer mailing list was founded. [35] This mailing list was for Buffy: The Vampire Slayer f/f fan fiction. The membership would top over 900 people.
* In the September edition of Spaced Out, the zine for the Diverse Universe club, Mirna Cicioni estimated that gay male slash writers accounted for five percent of all slash writers. (http://spacedoutinc.org/DU-01.html)
* On October 1, 1999, The Basement, an X-Files slash fan fiction archive, was founded. [36]

2000′s
2000

* Yuricon and ALC Publishing were founded. (http://www.anilesbocon.com/ ) They have anime and manga that caters to women’s desire for f/f anime related materials.
* Mailing lists were also at their shining and brightest thanks to the ease of use of services like Topica and EGroups. A number of influential lists that would influence the course of their fan fiction communities were founded. These include RS-X, Better Buffy Fics, Prospect-L, ER Realms of Slash, Fanthropology, and Harry Potter for Grown Ups.
* BadFic, a tradition which can be traced back to Paula Smith’s Mary Sue, became more main stream and critical, less kind approaches to critiquing fan fiction began to happen. This was evident across fan fiction communities with the rise of lists and websites like Better Buffy Fics, Citizens Against Bad Slash, the Wicked X Witches and God Awful Fan Fiction. It was also mirrored in the greater proliferation of MSTs of fan fiction.
* Fuh-Q became part of fannish terminology. Fuh-Q was originally the title of a story written by JA Chapman (see JA Ingram) and Olivia Montieth for the Small Screen round robin on ASCEM. Charlene Vickers and JA Chapman then started an off-topic list called Fuh-Q where several authors converged to talk about things that couldn’t be discussed on ASCEM. Carola, aka ladykardassi, a Fuh-Q member adopted the name and used it as a title of an on-line zine. The phrase was used on alt.startrek.creative.erotica.moderated annd made popular by jacquez, hafital, and ladykardasi who were are original members of the Fuh-Q list and still are to this day. The word came from an in joke on the Usenet group. A common misconception is that this fannish tradition was a result of a discussion about Spock only having sex once every seven years. (http://www.livejournal.com/community/fanspeak_help/3054.html). In truth it had to do with Jen Ingram’s, formerly Jen Chapman’s, take on the Picard/Q relationship. Olivia Monteith then suggested the name for their personal discussion group as if to say, “If you don’t like what we’re talking about, Fuh-Q!” Fuh-Q is still a thriving community of friends which is in its tenth year.
* By this time, Anik LaChev had started writing the Janeway/Seven Uber classic, “Campus.” (http://home.arcor.de/hanninanni/)
* On February 3, 2000, the hpslash mailing list was founded.
* On April 7, 2000, the Bindlestitch, a Due South slash oriented mailing list was created. (Marythefan: http://www.livejournal.com/community/fanthropology/65512.html?replyto=1435112)�
* In June, in Melbourne, Out-A-Space was held. This was a mini convention run by Spaced Out. They had a panel on slash. Amongst the things discussed at this panel was why gay men were uninterested in reading stories featuring gay storylines as written by heterosexual women. (http://spacedoutinc.org/DU-04.html)
* In June, SinpOZium, a slash convention, was held in Sydney, Australia.
* On June 28, 2000, Prospect-L, a Sentinel slash and gen discussion mailing list, was founded.
* In September of this year, the Femme Fuh-Q Fest was started in the Star Trek [37] fan fiction community. It currently houses over 320 Star Trek f/f slash stories.
* beatlesfanfictionlist was founded on September 24, 2000.
* On October 21, 2000, ER Realm Of Slash, a mailing list dedicated to ER slash, was founded. (Kathy (huntersglenn@cox.net) on alt.tv.er.creative)�
* On October 23, 2000, Majolique posted her story, “Midnight Confessions” to the hpslash list. This story is credited as being the first Snape/Harry fan fiction published. [38][39][40]
* On October 31, 2000, Unquiet posted part one of “A Different Lesson” the hpslash mailing list. [41][42][43]
* On November 2, 2000, the snapeslash mailing list was created. (titti: [44])
* On November 3-5, the first BASCon (Bay Area Slash Convention www.bascon.org) was held in Burlingame, CA.

2001

* The Blink 182 slash fan fiction community based at FanFiction.Net was producing early and influential works in the community. Among these works are “Advantages of Alcohol,” “Letters After Death,” “In my Room, Defying Gravity,” and “Deafening.” (xcacophony: [45] )
* Realms of the Shadows, an f/f slash archive was opened. Among the fandoms represented at this archive were All My Children, Bird of Prey, Bring it On, Coyote Ugly, Crossing Jordan, Facts of Life, Once & Again, Popular, Smallville and X-Men.
* On January 29, 2001, the LiveJournal community yuri was founded. [46] It was dedicated to f/f anime pairings. Fan fiction communities represented include but are not limited to: Avatar: The Last Airbender, Card Captor Sakura, Iono the Fanatics, Kashimashi, Neon Genesis Evangelion , Rule of Rose, Saigo no Seifuku, Sailor Moon, Simoun, Starship Operators, Strawberry Panic, Tetragrammaton Labyrinth, Yamaji Ebine.
* On March 25, 2001, the hpslash community was founded on LiveJournal.
* Between June and November, FFN-Slashers-Unite discussed the ethical implications of Real Person Slash.
* On June 1, 2002, Armchair_slash, a mailing list for Harry/Draco fan fiction discussion, was founded.
* On July 28, 2001, the BibleSlash mailing list was created.
* During the fall of 2001, the Harry Potter fan fiction community started to suffer its first real fractures. Prior to this, almost everyone had been on FanFiction.Net: slashers, canon purists, and fanon enthusiasts. Fiction Alley filled some of the void but not everyone went there. There would be no one big site to replace FanFiction.Net. This fracturing would not necessarily be visible to many parties who were not necessarily aware of the parts who had basically closed themselves off, segments like Snapeslashers. The community would also create a number of redundant archives, which allowed for people to further sequester themselves based on friends and shipping preferences.
* In October, JayKay proposed the idea for the Snape Slash Fleet on the snapeslash mailing list. (White_Serpent: http://www.livejournal.com/community/fanthropology/76445.html?replyto=1635741)
* In November 2001, The first BASCon was held. Among the panels that was hosted was on on f/f slash fandom. ([47] ) Connexions also had a panel on f/f. WitchQueen said of the Connexions panel: “We’ve still got the same issues (small audience, no zines, slasher misogyny but the panel was bigger than last year and more people were interested in writing f/f fic.” (http://www.slashx-files.com/blog/2001_04_01_edictsarchives.html)
* In November 2001, the harry_potter_slash mailing list was founded. This list saw its volume peak in December of 2004.
* In November 2001, Luthien wrote the story “Aftermath” in response to a challenge posted by Telanu on the SnapeSlash mailing list. [48]
* On November 16, 2001, the Snapeslash community benefited as a result of the opening of the first Harry Potter movie in theaters. This is mostly owed to fans finding Alan Rickman attractive. [49]
* On December 1, 2001, the mailing list POWSN was founded. This list, dedicated to the Percy/Oliver ship had its volume peak around July of 2003.
* Between December 19, 2001 and December 28, 2001, the tolkien_slash mailing list on Yahoo discussed the slashy subtext between the actors in the movie. (Marythefan: [50])
* On December 28, 2001, LOTR_RPS was created. It was one of the first or the first LotR RPF communities. (Marythefan: [51])
* Around 2001, places like SlashCity and many others would not host Harry Potter fan fiction because of the fear that they would receive a cease and desist letter from Warner Brothers. This was a big problem.
* This year was the start of the slash revolution on FanFiction.Net. Stories like “Harry Has Two Godfathers”, “The Mirror Never Lies”, “Irresistible Poison” which had previously been met with a less than favourable response were being reevaluated and found to people’s liking. Cindelius: [52]

2001 to 2003

* Between December 2001 and December 2003, the Lord of the Rings slash fan fiction community began a massive expansion after the release of The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring. ( Elance: http://www.livejournal.com/community/fanthropology/47794.html?replyto=1059762 )

2002 to 2004

* Harry Potter slash fans went through a period where they were obsessed with writing the students of Hogwarts, primarily Draco and Harry as wearing leather pants. This was popularized by authors like Cassandra Claire, Heidi8, IvyBlossom, Aja and Stacey. [53]

2002

* By 2002, DVDs began playing an increasingly important role in fandom. They are revitalizing old fandoms by allowing new fans to see the source material for the first time. Created in 1994, they now provide 60% of studio receipts. (USA Today)
* Andromeda Uncovered (http://www.anzwers.org/free/andromeda/ ) was founded. While it did not host only f/f material, it was one of the major sources for finding f/f in the Andromeda fan fiction community.
* The Buffy: The Vampire Slayer and Angel fanzine, A Shark with Feet, was published. This fanzine contained some f/f material.
* THE LAW & ORDER: SVU FEMSLASH SITE INDEX – f/f (lesbian) fan fiction pairings was founded. (http://www.xenawp.org/svu/ )
* On May 15, 2002, slashpuppets was founded. It was one of the first, possibly the first, LotR RPS role playing community. [54] , redpanda: [55]
* On June 1, 2002, Armchair_slash, a mailing list for Harry/Draco fan fiction discussion, was founded.
* In November, the harry_potter_slash mailing list was founded. This list saw its volume peak in December of 2004.
* On December 12, 2002, the harrypottermpreg mailing list was founded. This community’s volume peaked around March/April of 2004.
* GeekTurnedVamp write about f/f slash in her journal. The following is a quote from her journal on that topic in order to give an idea of the attitudes towards f/f from that year:

Not only are a lot of female writers of m/m slash simply uninterested in f/f, many are actively uncomfortable with it (for reasons I won’t even go into because that’s another rant)–a few to the point of saying it shouldn’t even be called slash at all. And again, while I must reiterate that none of this is limited to slash (because it’s so not, even though okay, apparently maybe I am gonna pick on it a little), I find prejudice like that ridiculous. [56]

2003

* A search for “Harry Potter slash” on Google resulted in over 70,000 pages. (Rachel Shave)
* On January 13, 2003, RestrictedSection, a Harry Potter fan fiction site, received a cease and desist letter. The date erroneously read 2002.[57]
* www.psa.shadow-wrapped.net received a cease and desist letter for adult Harry Potter content. (Chilling Effects)
* The Girls’ Dormitory [58], a Harry Potter saffic site, was founded this year. The site archived over 450 stories and had over 350 members.
* In January 2003, the first Harry Potter slash zine was published. (Rachel Shave)
* On March 17, 2003, the LiveJournal community hp_girlslash was founded.
* The Lady Comic Slash Site was founded. This site contains an index of f/f fan fiction, original art and image manipulations based on comics.
* On April 12, 2003, idolslash, one of the most influential American Idol fan fiction communities, was founded on LiveJournal. ([59], tisharrasofine on AIM)
* On May 5, 2003, current_affairs, a LiveJournal community for political slash, was created. [60]
* On July 23, 2003, AFI_Slash, a LiveJournal community was created. It claimed to be the first and only community. It should be noted that this community is small and FanDomination.Net has most stories and authors than this community. [61]
* Slash was defined by Jill Marsh on alt.fan.cecil-adams on October 28, 2003 as:

Slash usually refers to fanfic concerning the romantic/sexual pairing of two male characters (the definitive slash couple being Kirk/Spock). I have seen female pairings called “femslash,” “fem-slash,” “f/f slash,” “female slash,” “girlslash,” sometimes just “lesbian fanfiction,” or “femmeslash” Heterosexual fanfic is usually called “het”.

However for all intents and purposes one can find all these combinations just searching for “slash”, the term seems to be becoming more generic.

And yes, the term “romantic” was used up there very intentionally, I have seen lots of slash, indeed the very first slash I ever saw, that was purely about romantic love rather than sexual behaviour.

* On November 1, 2003, the first wave of [62] the Snape/Lupin fuh-q-fest started.

2004

* The Love of a Woman, Issue 2 was published in March by Devious Developments Press. This saffic fanzine was multifandom is a sample of the type of saffic available this year.
* The bigger Janeway/7 fan fiction message boards began adding discussion space for the posting of the Kate Mulgrew/Jeri Ryan pairing. At the same time, a number of traditional Star Trek fan fiction fan spaces, like alt.startrek.creative, generally remained ActorSlash free as a matter of fan culture.
* On February 2, 2004, Blink_Slash, a LiveJournal Blink 182 slash community, was founded. [63], xcacophony: [64]
* Between July and November, political slash went main stream in the Real Person Fic community when John Kerry/John Edwards slash became all the rage.
* On July 6, 2004, johnxjohn, the Kerry/Edwards RPF LiveJournal community, was created. [65]
* On July 24, 2004, matag, a LiveJournal Blink 182 slash community, was founded. [66], xcacophony: [67]
* By September, the first My Chemical Romance slash related LiveJournals, DeadJournals, OpenJournals were being created. [68]
* By this time, the f/f Lord of the Rings community was beginning to take off. More authors were writing it. One of the authors was Laura Mason.

2005

* According to _my_name_here_ on LiveJournal, the My Chemical Romance slash fan fiction community, at this time, was largely composed of teenaged writers of both genders. [69]
* In late February/ early March, 2005, God Awful Fan Fiction posters went after Pornish Pixies for a Harry Potter story by ailei which amounted to a “chan/slash/incest/twincest porn story” because God Awful Fan Fiction posters did not like that minors were able to readily access this story. [70][71][72]

2006
Blog Pulse: Real Person Fic (RPF), Real Person Slash (RPS)
Google Trends: Star Wars fan fiction, Star Wars slash. 2004 to late 2006.
Blog Pulse Trend Tracker: Star Wars slash, Star Wars fan fic.

* In June 2007, Mary Ellen Curtin estimated that thirty percent of all fan fiction was slash.

List of pornographic sub-genres
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

The following are common sub-genres of pornography. This list may not be comprehensive, as there are many genres of pornography. Pornographic films may include elements of more than one genre.

The two main distinctions of pornography are between softcore and hardcore pornography, while hardcore works may include softcore content, but not the other way round.

* Softcore pornography generally depicts naked or partially clothed women and/or men in sexually suggestive situations but excludes explicit sexual activity and sexual penetration.
* Hardcore pornography depicts graphic sexual acts. Most of the genres in this list are of hardcore pornography.

Contents
[hide]

* 1 By physical characteristics of participants
o 1.1 Age
o 1.2 Body features
o 1.3 Race
o 1.4 Subculture
* 2 Fetish
o 2.1 Bondage/BDSM
o 2.2 Bodily functions
o 2.3 Other fetish
* 3 Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transsexual
o 3.1 Men with men
o 3.2 Women with women
o 3.3 Multiple men and women
o 3.4 Transsexual people
* 4 Reality
* 5 Specific sex acts
o 5.1 Anal
o 5.2 Other sex acts
* 6 Other categories
o 6.1 Computer-generated, interactive, and animated
o 6.2 Miscellaneous
* 7 References

[edit] By physical characteristics of participants

[edit] Age

* Mature pornography features performers who are in their 40s and 50s and in some cases over 60.
* MILF pornography, which stands for Mother I’d Like to Fuck, features older women in fantasy scenarios with younger men. See also List of actresses in the MILF porn genre.
* GMILF pornography in which is in similar circumstances to “milf” pornography. In this instance it involves senior aged women in pornographic fantasy scenarios with younger more agile men. An example of this is used in a quote from the first episode of “metalocalypse”.
* Teen pornography, also known as barely legal pornography depicts performers from legal age to early 20s and emphasizes themes such as youth, inexperience, innocence, or curiosity. Teen pornography often caters to ephebophiles. There is considerable overlap between teen pornography and Lolita pornography and some overlap with tiny tits pornography.
* Adolescent/Pre-teen Pornography is pornography focusing on pre-teen (<10 years) and tweener (10-12 years) actors/actresses. It is considered separate from Child Pornography in countries where APP films are legal if all parties involved gave consent.
* Erotic Preteen Video is non-pornographic or simulated pornographic, live action, films consisting of models under the age of consent for actual pornography. Like adolescent and pre-teen pornography, it is not considered child pornography in countries where such films are legal to make and/or possess, and all parties involved gave consent.
* Child pornography is pornography involving children or teenagers, under the age of consent (although in some countries such as the United Kingdom and United States the definition of child pornography includes subjects over the age of consent pretending to be younger). This genre often documents the sexual abuse of children. Production, possession, and distribution of child pornography are illegal in many countries. In the countries where child pornography is illegal simulated photographs ("pseudo-photographs") or lifelike edited images representing child sex are illegal as well.
* Lolicon pornography is hentai illustrations or animation featuring young female child-like characters
* Shotacon is the male equivalent of Lolicon, featuring young male child-like characters.

[edit] Body features

* Big Beautiful Women (BBW) pornography features overweight or obese women.
* Big-breast pornography, also called ginormous tits, big-boob or big-bust pornography features women with large breasts. Some viewers prefer performers with breast implants, others prefer women who have naturally large breasts.
* Big cock porn featuring men with large penises.
* Big butt pornography features women with large buttocks. This genre eroticizes the buttocks and anus, and often overlaps with anal pornography.
* Hairy pornography involves conspicuous amounts of body and/or pubic hair. The models may be partially shaven, show body hair stubble or be completely unshaven, with an emphasis on the socially tabooed armpit hair. The latter are sometimes marketed as "Hippies" and can be connected with Naturism. Because of the increased trend toward total depilation in contemporary pornography, the presence of any pubic hair at all on a model, even when groomed, is sometimes considered as making the model "hairy".
* Hair fetishism, for example models with red, blond, or brunette hair. Additionally, hip-length hair, butt-length hair, thigh-length hair, knee-length hair or floor-length hair, may carry out hair jobs, toss their hair back and forth, perform with wet hair, etc.
* Leg and feet pornography has an extreme emphasis on women's legs and feet.
* Disease Ridden Pornography in which involves women that are said to have 'disease ridden' body parts. Lepars are a main focus in this style of pornography.
* Tiny tits pornography features women with very small breasts. These women are often portrayed as teenagers. There is some overlap between tiny tits pornography, teen pornography, and Lolita pornography.

[edit] Race
Main article: Race-oriented pornography

Race-oriented pornography does not always feature performers who are actually of the race listed in the title. Performers are sometimes billed as being of a certain race, if their facial features, body shape, or skin color fit a publicly accepted idea of what people of that race look like. Some performers are billed as being of one race, and then of another, depending on the film.

* Asian pornography features performers who are (or appear to be) Asian / the Far East.
* Ebony or black pornography features performers who are (or appear to be) black. They can be sub-divided into African pornography, African-American pornography or Caribbean pornography for performers who are (or appear to be) from the Caribbean islands.[citation needed]
* European pornography involving performers who are (or appear to be) European with blond features from Western Europe or more commonly Eastern Europe.
* Indian pornography features performers who are (or appear to be) Indian.[verification needed]
* Interracial pornography usually features sex between people of different racial backgrounds, but is more associated with pairing black and white actors and actresses or Latino/Latina and white actors and actresses.
* Latina/Latin pornography features performers who are (or appear to be) from Latin America or Latin Europe. Most are of Spanish, Portuguese, Native American or Mestiza descent.[verification needed]
* Middle Eastern pornography features performers who are (or appear to be) from the Middle East. There is certainly an overlap with Arab pornography involving performers who are (or appear to be) Arabs from the Middle East or North Africa, and with Indian pornography.

[edit] Subculture

* Alt porn features performers with tattoos, piercings, unusually coloured hair, or who have a goth, punk rock, skinhead, raver, rockabilly/greaser, crusty or stoner appearance. Many involved are members of the punk, goth, skinhead, rave and even Kustom Kulture. Good examples of this are films directed by Bruce LaBruce, who is a punk himself and his work could also be seen as avant-garde cinema.

* Art porn or artistic porn features erotic art dedicated to specific pornstars. One of the first art porn groups is the Pornsaints collective, founded by the Italian artist Francesco D'Isa. Like alt porn, it can be indebted to avant-garde cinema

[edit] Fetish
See also: Sexual fetishism

[edit] Bondage/BDSM
An actress from the 1950s engages in light bondage

* Bondage pornography features performers tied up or constrained in various ways.
* BDSM pornography depicts bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism.
* Rough sex pornography is similar to pornography featuring sadomasochism, and typically features a Top who humiliates and/or degrades a Bottom while being physically violent towards them. Typically featured are hitting, choking, name-calling and hair-pulling.
* Rape pornography features performers simulating rape. Rape itself is a crime in most countries.
* Spanking pornography involves spanking, generally of the buttocks, with the hand or with other objects.
* Wired pornography involves the use of electrical shocks and stimuli.
* Hard crush pornography features the actual killing of small animals and the act itself is generally illegal under cruelty to animals laws.
* Snuff pornography involves the death of one of the participants, consenting or otherwise. The existence of such content in commercially available pornography is widely considered an urban legend. In some areas, there are laws stating it is not legally possible to consent to be killed, and elsewhere it may still be legally dubious (see Armin Meiwes).
* Guro or Gore is a genre of Japanese pornography and hentai involving blood, gore, disfiguration, violence, mutilation, urine, enemas, or feces.

[edit] Bodily functions

* Menstrual or "red rhapsody" pornography features sexual activities involving women who are menstruating, with a focus on the menstrual blood.
* Scat or "brown" pornography features defecation, manipulation of feces, or consumption of feces, in reality or fantasy.
* Milking pornography features women being milked or milking herself
* Watersports pornography features sexual activities involving urine, such as "golden showers".
* Emetophilia pornography involving vomiting and gagging.
* Preggo pornography features pregnant performers and may include lactation as a fetish.
* Squirt pornography involves women ejaculating.
* Saliva pornography involves salivation and saliva.
* Cum-shot pornography features a collection of male ejaculation scenes.

[edit] Other fetish

* Bukkake pornography involves a performer, usually female, onto whom many men ejaculate.
* Clothed female, naked male pornography features naked men and clothed women; typically, the women humiliate and abuse the men or perform fellatio and/or handjobs on the men. (This is often abbreviated to CFNM.) The reverse of this, in which nude women interact with clothed men, is called Clothed male, naked female (abbreviated CMNF).
* Creampie pornography features ejaculation inside the vagina or anus instead of common cum shot.
* Crush pornography features objects being crushed by an actress or actor, who generally plays an overtly dominant role.
* Cuckold fetish pornography that involves a cuckolded husband.[1]
* Cum swapping pornography involves performers trading semen between their mouths.
* Foot fetish pornography features heavy emphasis on the feet of the participants, either in combination with kissing and genital sex or in the context of acts such as trampling or crush fetishism.
* Diaper pornography involves performers pretending to be infants, often with an adult performer acting in the role of an adult caretaker.
* Incest pornography features sex between actors who portray a familial relationship. Incest itself is largely taboo, and is a crime in many countries.
* Lolita pornography (also known as lollipop) features women who are 18 years old or slightly older, who pretend to be underage teen girls. The fetish centers around this fantasy portrayal. Lolita pornography that features actual teenage girls under the age of 18 is illegal in most countries and treated as child or youth pornography. Lolita pornography caters to ephebophiles.[citation needed]
* Rubber pornography involves rubber, latex, and similar materials.
* Bestiality pornography involves the sexual attraction of humans to animals. Bestiality is illegal in many countries.
* Wetlook pornography involves clothed wet persons.
* Glasses fetish: involves women who wear eyeglasses. Also referred to as spex appeal.

[edit] Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transsexual

[edit] Men with men

* Gay pornography is usually male homosexual pornography, sometimes featuring actors that identify as straight (i.e. Gay-for-pay). Acts depicted typically include oral and anal sex.
* Bareback pornography features performers who are not wearing condoms.
* Bear pornography features large hairy men.
* Twink pornography features young-looking performers.

[edit] Women with women
Main article: Lesbianism in erotica: Lesbianism in contemporary pornography

* Lesbian or girl-girl pornography features women engaged in sex together, but is typically aimed at a male audience. Women who perform in lesbian pornography often do not consider themselves lesbian or bisexual. See also Gay-for-pay.
* Lesbian pornography made for women is usually made by women, and usually features women who identify as lesbian or bisexual. Lesbian pornography typically features a wider range of appearances and body types than is typical of mainstream pornography. Particularly, some pornography in this genre features butch women, who are almost never seen in mainstream pornography.

[edit] Multiple men and women

* Bisexual pornography features one woman and two men who all perform sex acts on each other. The pornography is geared towards men; hence the word "bisexual" describes the men rather than the woman.
* Threesome pornography features one man and two women who all perform sex acts on each other. It is geared towards heterosexual men, who would most typically define a threesome as such.
* Gang bang pornography usually depicts numerous men having sex with one woman, or one man. A scene where many women have sex with one submissive man is referred to as a "reverse gang-bang".

[edit] Transsexual people

* Transman pornography features performers who were born female and who medically transitioned to male. Buck Angel is the best-known example of this genre.
* Transsexual pornography features performers who were born male and who medically transitioned to female. They are most often featured with male co-stars, but sometimes are featured with other transsexuals or cisgendered women. Common phrases used to refer to these performers are "chicks with dicks" or "she-male", although these are generally considered pejorative among transwomen and in the queer community. Transsexual porn star Wendy Williams has stated that "transsexual Porn is classified as Straight Specialty."[2]
* Transgender pornography features performers who cross-dress for sexual gratification, either for themselves or for their partners, known as tranny chasers. Many men who like trans partners of any variety don't necessarily identify as gay themselves, even though the sex act is between two genetic males. This is why video stores might consider stocking transgendered subject matter in the straight section, as some straight men will have passive or active sex with another man as long as their partner appears to look like a woman to them, to some minor or major degree.

[edit] Reality

Reality pornography refers to real or faked 'amateur' encounters. This category also includes pornographic home movies. Related genres include:

* Amateur pornography was originally produced by amateurs. There is now also professionally made pornography designed to appear as if it were amateur.
* Celebrity sex tapes are amateur or professionally-made recordings of sex acts, as performed by a celebrity and their partner(s). These typically are leaked to the public via the Internet, without the celebrity's consent. A celebrity may allow such a recording to surface willingly, as part of a publicity stunt.
* Exhibitionist pornography features performers, usually female exposing themselves in public and spans simple flashing to public sex. The Girls Gone Wild series is one example.
* Gonzo pornography involves a first-person cameraman/performer perspective.
* Upskirt and Downblouse pornography features staged filming up women's skirts or down their blouses while in public. Actual upskirt or downblouse shots may violate privacy laws in some countries.
* Hidden Camera pornography involves shots that appear to spy or peep on a woman who is unaware she is being viewed or filmed while dressing or showering. Actual spying may violate privacy and/or trespassing laws in many countries. Voyeur pornography is usually more staged with the subjects aware of the cameras, sometimes openly including this exhibitionist awareness.

[edit] Specific sex acts

[edit] Anal

* Anal pornography features primarily male-male scenes and sometimes male-female anal sex scenes.
* Ass to mouth pornography shows the transfer of a performer's penis or object from another performer's anus to their mouth in a single shot.
* Gape shots in pornography feature scenes of anal sex with a focus on the recipient's anus "gaping".
* Pegging pornography features a woman penetrating a man with a strap-on dildo.
* Rimjob pornography centers around anilingus.

[edit] Other sex acts

* Double penetration (aka DP) pornography depicts simultaneous anal and vaginal penetration of one woman. Double Stuffed (aka DS) pornography involves the penetration of one orifice by two penises or other objects.
* Fisting pornography features the insertion of an entire hand into a performer's vagina or anus.
* Oral sex pornography usually features a person performing fellatio, it occasionally features cunnilingus.
* Solo pornography features performers masturbating.

[edit] Other categories

[edit] Computer-generated, interactive, and animated

* Cartoon pornography depicts illustrated or animated fictional characters in erotic or sexual situations.
* Hentai is a catch-all term for various forms of Japanese pornography, including H-manga, H-anime and H-computer games. The term hentai is never used in this context in Japanese. The meaning of hentai is "perversion", "abnormality", or "metamorphosis". Yaoi is anime or manga that features gay males (although not necessarily pornographic). Yuri is the lesbian equivalent.
* Interactive pornography, available in CD-ROM and DVD format, allows the viewer to select the particular acts performed at any one time, sometimes with the camera providing a first person view.
* Poser porn or Renderotica is pornography made using 3D computer graphics, usually with the 3D art program Poser, made to represent people in various sexual acts.

[edit] Miscellaneous

* Classics are pornographic films from the 1970s and sometimes 1980s.
* Compilations are a collection of short pornographic scenes, usually themed to a particular fetish such as anal or cum-shots, taken from otherwise unrelated films. (For copyright reasons, compilations are often limited to clips from films published by a single company.)
* Full-feature pornographic films are typically about two hours long, and usually have a plot.
* Parody Porn is a sub-genre that parodies the title to mainstream film or television show using sexual puns.
* Independent pornography is pornography produced by filmmakers unconnected to the major porn studios in a given country. It is often mislabled "amateur pornography", though the producers and actors are often professional pornographic filmmakers and actors. (It is not always easy to distinguish between genuine amateurs and unknown professionals: often, the distinction is a matter of timing.)
* Japanese adult video or JAV is pornography produced in Japan for domestic consumption, though it has a large international audience as well. JAV has a number of features that place it in a unique genre when compared to pornography produced in other countries. Notably, because of Japanese obscenity laws, most Japanese pornography videos and photographs include a "mosaic" that blocks the view of the performers genitalia. ("Uncensored" JAV is also produced, though illegally.) JAV has a diverse array of subgenres, many of which are the same as the subgenres in general pornography, however, there are also fetish and costume genres that are largely unique to the JAV milieu.
* Vintage erotica is generally pre-1970s pornography, especially early-Twentieth-Century black and white photographs and stag films.
* Extreme pornography is a term introduced by the UK Government, describing a classification of adult pornography that has become illegal to possess under new laws.
* Womens' Pornography refers to a category of porn that is expressly produced for female customers, taking into account that male and female receptive and aesthetic needs may differ widely. Sometimes that involves, that the director and/or producer are women. Frequently, there is a focus on certain dos and don'ts for the production process (behind the scenes and on-screen) and the actions portrayed.

[edit] References

1. ^ http://www.nerve.com/dispatches/ma/cuckold/printcopy.asp
2. ^ Wendy Williams (2009-06-24). "HIV Adult Industry Scare from a TS Point of View

1. cock ring

A constrictive interlocking device placed at the base of the penis, to prevent blood from escaping and to strengthen erection.
My roommate’s girlfriend was complaining that he was too soft, so I hooked him up with a cock ring for his birthday.

by Brown Sugar

2. cock ring

an elastic ring which fits around the base of the penis. It constricts the veins which drain blood from the penis, thereby strengthening an erection. Bought cheaply in automotive parts stores as “O-rings”, they are black in colour. Also available in sex shops which sell vibrators, condoms, etc.Also increases the sensation during ejaculation as it constricts the urethra.
I had been having trouble maintaining an erection with her, as I was very nervous. We had some wine, which helped, but then she cut the end out of a condom and rolled it backwards onto me, forming a cock ring at the base of my dick. After that, I had no problems.

by John R.

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tool used for males whose penises cannot stay hard long enough to get their girlfriend to have an orgasm
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4. Cock Ring

The homosexual version of “Booty Call.” When a person calls your cell phone explicitly to ask for sex.
“Hey Peter, who was that on the phone just now?”
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“Dammit Peter! Diching us for a cock ring again?”

by Luke E.

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insult, insinuating a person enjoys being worn on a cock (like the literary term)
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When a woman proposes to a man buy slobbing his knob if he says i do then they get married, but if he refuses to marry her she bites his dick really fuckin hard, then runs out the door and shits all over the sidewalk…usually.

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By Ann Andriani

I’ve gotten several questions in the past about using and buying Strap-On Dildos over at Allsexadvice.com, so I thought that it would be fun to teach through my very personal experience with strap on harness shopping for the first time. So, what follows is a detailed account of my experience. Enjoy!

My boyfriend and I have been seeing this very special woman for a couple of years now. She does live a bit of a distance so we only get together to play about once or twice a year, although lately it we’re trying to get together even more often. Anyway, she’s been really great, the first woman I’ve ever really been sexually involved with. I haven’t tried a quarter as much with her as with any other woman prior. And she’s real easy going and willing to try new things so it’s been one hell of a ride and a great one at that! I have for quite some time now wondered what it would be like to fuck a woman. Now the whole idea of a strap on kind of turned me off because I felt as though it would make me look too masculine (I was quite the tomboy growing up and would hate to have to visit that time of my life again). My girlfriend is real feminine and totally girly, so the last thing I want to do, especially in the eyes of my boyfriend, is look manly…yuck! Well, yet another meeting has been planned, but the urge to fuck her is really on my mind. I think this is the time to do it.

I started shopping online to see what’s out there. Everything is kind of boring and somewhat ugly, all these black harnesses, none really looking like a thong…until I saw it. A pink or purple and silver harness and it’s sparkly too. It’s got style and it doesn’t look as bulky as all the others, but a harness has to fit really well if the whole activity is going to be successful. Besides, I’d hate to start the job and have the harness slide down or fall off right in the middle. I have a great sense of humor during sex, but still embarking on this activity will have me a little anxious and that’s one thing I don’t want to have to worry about or deal with. Luckily, I live close to New York City where I can actually visit Toys in Babeland to feel, see and even try on a harness. So that’s my next step, physically handling a harness and finding one that doesn’t make me feel masculine, is comfortable to wear and works well for me.

That’s what I physically have to do. Emotionally, I’ve already done a lot of communicating. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 14 years now and we love each other very much. We’re best friends and the reason this threesome arrangement works so well is because of the trust and very open communication that we have. But I wanted to make sure I wouldn’t freak anybody out, although at this point that would be very difficult to do. So I shared this desire with my boyfriend and he was more than turned on to say the least. Great, he’s not frightened, now I just have to run it by her. So I shared this desire with her and she was really excited and actually said she’d like to fuck me after I fuck her. What more could a girl ask for. So, no one’s frightened by it, but I’m definitely feeling a little anxious about it. For some reason, I’m thinking it’s not as easy as it looks. Just find the hole and thrust right? Oh boy, this is going to be quite an experience…

Okay, I’m ready to go out and purchase my strap-on. I’ve done all my online window shopping and I’m ready to go pick one out, so my boyfriend and I were off to Toys in Babeland with our kinky friends. I brought them along because I figured they’d enjoy helping me pick one out too. Besides, they’re a kinky couple and they’d understand. I have never been to Toys in Babeland before and it was actually a lot smaller than I had anticipated. Anyway, they were really busy that day, but I found the strap-on harnesses displayed on the back wall. As I walked past all the vibrators on display, I could feel them pulling me in, but I ignored my urge to play with them and continued to the back wall. I had to stay focused.

First, I noticed the pink and purple sparkly harness, it was rather stylish and had personality, but then I took it off the wall and realized that it was made of vinyl and was really kind of stiff. With the way the harness is made, the vinyl straps that go around your waist and legs is folded, and on the side that touches your skin, the seam is not sewn down. It’s just the two sides of the fabric meet and I couldn’t see that feeling comfortable up against my skin. So there were 2 negatives about that one: the fabric was stiff and the open seams on the underside would not be comfortable rubbing against my skin. With great disappointment, my search continued.

There were a ton of black leather harnesses, most too bulky for me. There was a red leather one, but I’m on the pale side, even with a tan and I just couldn’t see the red flattering me. So I stuck to non-bulky and black, which narrowed my choices down for me. One harness seemed really cool, it had leather snaps on the front which would allow me to use different size O’rings, then I really have a large choice of dildos to choose from at any time, but there was a drawback…This made the harness a little bulky in front for me, not what I was looking for. I kept that one in mind, but moved on. After feeling and perusing the whole wall of harnesses, two stuck out to me. One wasn’t too bulky, just a little black triangle in front with a pocket for a little vibe, made of soft leather and had one strap (meaning it’s worn like a thong) and came with an O’ring attached. I know you’re probably wondering what the importance of this O’ring is and I shall explain before I continue, so we’re all on the same page.

Definition of an O’Ring:

An O’ring is attached to the front of the harness to help keep the dildo in place. With leather harnesses especially, the fabric around the hole that the dildo fits through may stretch over time making the hole in the harness much bigger than the dildo. When that happens, the dildo will not stay securely in place, making it very difficult to use. With an O’ring attached to the harness, the hole will always remain that size and even if it does, for some reason, stretch, you can always purchase another O’ring instead of another harness.

The other harness looked somewhat the same, in the front, as a one strap but had two. Let me explain:

Two strap harnesses fit like a jock strap, the straps go through the legs, around the butt cheeks and up to the waist strap on top. In my initial research I saw mixed reviews about this type. Some said that it was great for women because it left your vagina exposed for stimulation without needing to remove the harness; and others said that if you bend forward, the leg straps slide down your legs which gives you less control over the dildo.

However, the 1 strap, g-string style with the strap going up my butt, may give me more control over the dildo and the strap that runs between my legs may move a little, giving me some clitoral and overall vulva stimulation. The one that I really like with the pockets for the vibes was definitely going to me the clitoral and vulvar stimualtion that I needed. Woo Hoo!

So, all were very valid points, but my main concern was “Will these straps around my butt cheeks make my butt look fat?” Remember, my biggest fear here is that I’m going to look manly or just plain ole unattractive and I can’t have that. I called a staff member over and told her of my dilemma because I basically knew what I was interested in, but was torn between one or two straps. Luckily, she told me I could use the restroom to try them both on, over my pants of course. Relived that I had this option, I went into the restroom and gave them a try.

First, I tried on the two strap. It felt okay, I bent down and the straps moved a little, but not too much. Then I turned around to see what my butt looked like. I wasn’t too thrilled. It wasn’t that my butt looked huge, I just wasn’t crazy about those straps running under my cheeks. Before making a final decision about it, I tried on the one strap. Not only did it look better from behind, but it felt much better. Since it fit like a pair of undies, I felt like I would have full control over my member. Before making a fast decision, I gave each another try, first the two strap then the one strap and the one strap was the winner!

So let’s review my options…

• Vinyl / Patent Leather Harness
  Too stiff and cold to feel comfortable for me, but very attractive and stylish.
• Leather Harness with Exchangeable O’Ring
  Too bulky looking in the front for me and was a two strap, but does give you many possibilities for dildos.
• Leather Harness with Pockets for Bullet Vibrators
  Pocket for bullet vibe in front made it a little bulky looking, but it also had a pocket in the crotch for a vibe too which would feel divine, maybe a little too divine, while penetrating my girlfriend. So the decision I had to make here was, would the vibrations be way to much excitement for me? Remember, I want to be able to do this for a little while.
• Leather Harness without O’Ring
  You can’t attach an O’Ring, so once the leather stretches you have to buy another harness, either that or try to sew an O’ring around the hole, but who wants to do that. They were available in one and two strap, but at that time, I didn’t see the point.
• Leather Harness with O’Ring**INITIAL WINNER**
  I only have 1 “girth” size option of dildos, so my choice is limited. However, I’m willing to forego that because I really like the non-bulky, simple leather triangle in front, and it’s a g-string/1 strap style harness. The friction buckles on the sides allow me to pull this baby really tight, so I have great control over my member.
• ** NEW 2009 WINNER**
  UPDATE: Unfortunately, Babeland is out of my way cool harness. Recently, Adam & Eve sent me a surprisingly good strap-on dildo kit, Bree Olson Glitter Glam Strap-On Harness & Dong Kit. I’ve had a handful of wonderful experiences with it. So for purposes of this article and recommending good strap on’s Bree Olson’s is currently my new strap-on harness & dildo of choice! The link goes to my detailed review of it.

Now it was time to pick out a dildo.

My desires were that it couldn’t look like a real penis, it couldn’t be too long, it has to be able to be sanitized and if my harness is black, it has to be girly (whatever that means). So, with my friends chuckling at the huge deal I made over the harness, I was off to the section where the dildos were on display. Now, as I was picking out my harness, my boyfriend kind of helped me, but when I called the staff member over, he gave me some space to make my own decisions. My kinky friends perused the other toys, but when selecting a dildo, I needed some assistance from those dear to me.

The staff showed me which dildos were silicone, that way the dildo can be put on the top rack of the dishwasher to sanitize after use. There were handful that actually fit through my O’ring. There was a sparkly lavender and light blue dildo. Then there was this dildo with a curve on the end of it, but it reminded my kinky friends of a bowling ball, it had a marble type design on it, I liked the design and shape of it, but not the color. Then I saw the sign that said, “all dildos available in different colors, ask for assistance.” So I called over a staff member. She showed me that she had a pretty pink one in the curved style that I liked. So now I was torn between the sparkly lavendar one and the pink one. So I called over my kinky friends to get their opinion. My boyfriend, the staff member and my kinky friends all agreed that the pink was their favorite, because it was pink and it had the little curve at the end of it, great for g-spot stimulation. So there I had it my way cool, simple, yet sexy and secure fitting black harness and purple dildo, I was all set, now I can go play with the vibrators…

I wasn’t seeing my girlfriend that night, but when I got home, I tried the whole thing on. The harness has friction buckles on it so I just put the strap through the buckle and have my b/f pull really tight so it’s on nice and securely. Once I did that, it felt as though it was a part of me. The dildo sat right above my pubic bone and it didn’t look frightening either. Since I wasn’t doing the fucking that night, I got out of the harness and my boyfriend tried the dildo out on me. I gave it a test drive and it felt really good. It’s not too fat, or too long and does hit the ole g-spot. So needless to say, I’m very happy with my purchase. Now, I just have to get my chick and try it out…I hope that my strap on harness shopping experience has shed some light to help you pick out that perfect harness for you!

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